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Episode 3

Overcoming Pride with Nicole Garcia

This week "overcoming pride". Nichole Garcia speaks deeply about the political and spiritual struggle she went through in her election.

Nicole Garcia is originally from the Pacific Northwest and has worked in the corporate arena since graduating college in 2008. Nicole has a passion for doing the right thing for others and saw a need in her own city where she could be useful. She ran for a City Council position this last election cycle. Being new to politics and campaigns, she shares some of her struggles on her journey and things she would do different next time. Nicole currently resides in Phoenix, Arizona.

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Host: Coach April Ballestero

Guest: Nicole Garcia

Produced by: Eric Ballestero

Transcript
Coach April Ballestero:

It is another episode of addressing the elephant in the room.

Coach April Ballestero:

We are in season three, we are episode three and it is a joy.

Coach April Ballestero:

I'm the strategic leadership coach of One Light Ahead.

Coach April Ballestero:

My name is Coach April Ballestero.

Coach April Ballestero:

I get to be the founder and the owner and the individual that gets to serve whoever God puts on my path to serve.

Coach April Ballestero:

And I'm thankful for the opportunity to host this podcast because we know there are plenty of elephants

Coach April Ballestero:

We get to live in today and as always, we get to find powerful leaders that are willing to take on the hot seat of addressing the elephant in the room.

Coach April Ballestero:

This particular week, we have a powerful young lady.

Coach April Ballestero:

I got to meet in singles ministry many years ago.

Coach April Ballestero:

She was quite impressive then.

Coach April Ballestero:

She's been on quite a journey since, and is determined to have a voice.

Coach April Ballestero:

She recently ran for city council in Arizona and she is choosing the elephant today.

Coach April Ballestero:

Ms.

Coach April Ballestero:

Nicole, what Elephant are we taking on?

Nicole Garcia:

I think the one I decided on is probably the pride.

Nicole Garcia:

Pride and humility.

Nicole Garcia:

Yeah.

Nicole Garcia:

As a person, as a person of faith, I know we share, I share with you, but as a person of faith how to balance confidence and my, what

Nicole Garcia:

It's been a struggle for me.

Nicole Garcia:

So that's kind of what, the last month I lost my city council race in Phoenix, Arizona.

Nicole Garcia:

I lost that about a month ago, March 9th, horrible day for me after all the work that I put in.

Nicole Garcia:

But as the last, you know, next month, month and a half has passed.

Nicole Garcia:

I've been doing a lot of reflecting and what I would do differently.

Nicole Garcia:

Um, and I think it's just really taken me to a place of humility when you lose a race.

Nicole Garcia:

You're yeah.

Nicole Garcia:

And as a person of faith I felt like I relied too much on my own strength through it, and I was exhausted just exhausted by the time it was done.

Nicole Garcia:

And.

Nicole Garcia:

One of the huge gifts of there is not anyone who can't relate now and having to overcome pride and know that this is a really

Nicole Garcia:

And yet.

Nicole Garcia:

It's a discussion that's difficult to have is a discussion that not, everybody's willing to say, I'm going to be bold and I'm going

Nicole Garcia:

How do you see it come up?

Nicole Garcia:

How have you seen it in your journey and with others that you know, that there's a lack of, of willingness own that?

Coach April Ballestero:

Um, well, I have really strong beliefs and opinions.

Coach April Ballestero:

That's why I decided to run.

Coach April Ballestero:

And so being, so having such a strong conviction on the things that I feel so passionate about and passionate enough

Coach April Ballestero:

I think I'm right.

Coach April Ballestero:

I'm passionate about these.

Coach April Ballestero:

And so it's like when you know, and feel so strongly about something, you can kind of go in charging like full steam ahead.

Coach April Ballestero:

I don't care who is in my way, you know, like this is my convictions, these are my stances and I'm not budging.

Coach April Ballestero:

And I think there's an aspect of that where you don't budge, but, but there's a balance and you have to juggle it with.

Coach April Ballestero:

Kindness and humility.

Coach April Ballestero:

And I have a hard time with that.

Coach April Ballestero:

I'm just going to be honest, because like I said, my person, I don't know if you guys do any programs.

Coach April Ballestero:

I'm an Enneagram eight, very strong personality, like a bull.

Coach April Ballestero:

I don't look like it, but I'm like a bull.

Coach April Ballestero:

And when I have something, I just go after it and having to juggle, like, um, I don't know.

Coach April Ballestero:

Other people's even if they're against me having to juggle their feelings, I'm very good with people, obviously that I'm, you know, who believe

Coach April Ballestero:

And so, anyway, just having to let those things roll off your shoulders, that bother you and not just.

Coach April Ballestero:

Go after.

Coach April Ballestero:

I dunno, it's just like go after

Coach April Ballestero:

you asked to cover quite a bit there.

Coach April Ballestero:

So let me clarify a couple of things and then ask you the next question, because you said.

Coach April Ballestero:

You know, and depending on what, you know, behavior styles or personality tests or any of those things

Coach April Ballestero:

That is a tool, but it is a tool to so-called.

Coach April Ballestero:

Describe it and give you some clarity about certain behavior styles, right.

Coach April Ballestero:

And choose to have the competence and courage to run for public office in itself.

Coach April Ballestero:

Is a willingness to put yourself on a stage and say, here's what I stand for.

Coach April Ballestero:

Here's what I believe in.

Coach April Ballestero:

And here's how I'm going to confidently.

Coach April Ballestero:

And if you didn't have that competence, you didn't belong running.

Coach April Ballestero:

Right.

Coach April Ballestero:

Right.

Coach April Ballestero:

Yeah.

Coach April Ballestero:

Um, I just felt like I'll share a little bit just about how I was in this, you know, these jobs and I quit one and about

Coach April Ballestero:

And so, um, I really felt like over the years I had this burden for government, the people leaving our nation,

Coach April Ballestero:

I just had a really strong burden to do something and to maybe stop complaining and actually be active and do something about it.

Coach April Ballestero:

It's very easy to complain.

Coach April Ballestero:

I did it a lot.

Coach April Ballestero:

And so it's kind of, you come to the point where I was so uncomfortable that I had to do it.

Coach April Ballestero:

And a part of it's courage, a part of it was like me wanting to stop the discomfort.

Coach April Ballestero:

And so, yeah.

Coach April Ballestero:

And that had a pride issue in itself.

Coach April Ballestero:

Is the opportunity to recognize that.

Coach April Ballestero:

Okay, this is, if you didn't overcome the pride in that particular opportunity, you wouldn't have stepped into the next opportunity.

Coach April Ballestero:

Right.

Coach April Ballestero:

And yet, If we go back to that elephant of overcoming the pride in recognizing what's in our power and what we need to have

Coach April Ballestero:

And keeps you focused on understanding why and how and who you're serving.

Coach April Ballestero:

Right?

Nicole Garcia:

Yeah.

Nicole Garcia:

And like I went into it and with a really strong confidence leaning on the Lord.

Nicole Garcia:

Um, and so I feel like I went into it with a good balance of the good balance of humility and confidence

Nicole Garcia:

But as I kind of progressed in the last year of my life, which it took a year to run, um, I lost that.

Nicole Garcia:

And I think the biggest thing for me to share is you're saying like, Don't lose your original purpose.

Nicole Garcia:

Don't lose sight of what it was, because I feel that I did, I felt like I lost sight of the purpose that it was.

Nicole Garcia:

I originally did it with enough fire for, you know, to do something.

Nicole Garcia:

I mean, obviously going into public office, you can either go in.

Nicole Garcia:

A lot of politicians.

Nicole Garcia:

I mean, they're not considered humble by any means.

Nicole Garcia:

And so, and I wanted to be the one that, you know, it was going to make a change and, um, do something good.

Nicole Garcia:

And it's weird how you kind of get sucked into this.

Nicole Garcia:

Mindset, I guess.

Nicole Garcia:

Anyway, I don't know.

Coach April Ballestero:

It's so powerful to recognize, like you said, there's politicians in place.

Coach April Ballestero:

There's leaders in jobs.

Coach April Ballestero:

I mean, there's people that have pride issues all over the place.

Coach April Ballestero:

And and, they choose to address, or they choose not to, you're choosing to address it.

Coach April Ballestero:

Right.

Coach April Ballestero:

You're choosing the same.

Coach April Ballestero:

You're doing the, the gift of people being willing to address an Elephant is to say, what does it look like?

Coach April Ballestero:

How did I see it happen?

Coach April Ballestero:

And there's something else you said that I really want you to elaborate on.

Coach April Ballestero:

Is that I, somewhere along the line, the, I lost something and that happens for everybody.

Coach April Ballestero:

And we all have different justifications.

Coach April Ballestero:

Why we do something different or why we get sucked into something else.

Coach April Ballestero:

We all have different reasons for that.

Coach April Ballestero:

And it doesn't mean it's right.

Coach April Ballestero:

It just means that's what happened.

Coach April Ballestero:

And, and, and the same thing, depending on your belief system is that.

Coach April Ballestero:

Even that could be made good, right?

Coach April Ballestero:

It may not, it may take a long season for that, but it doesn't mean there's not a purpose attached to it.

Coach April Ballestero:

Right.

Coach April Ballestero:

And so what I hear you saying is now, and what I'd love for you to elaborate on it is how did you

Coach April Ballestero:

And, how can you not only regain that buyer and go by removing that pride and stepping into that humility, but, and also how could have somebody

Coach April Ballestero:

So you could have that awareness

Nicole Garcia:

and opportunity.

Nicole Garcia:

I think I could have reached out more to people.

Nicole Garcia:

When I say pride, I want to do everything by myself.

Nicole Garcia:

Cause I think I can do it the best.

Nicole Garcia:

I want it to be the one on people's doorsteps.

Nicole Garcia:

I didn't even, I mean, I would've loved if more people would have gone to people's doorsteps, but I knew, and I put the,

Nicole Garcia:

So I have all this pressure on me.

Nicole Garcia:

I need to be the one that gives them a phone call.

Nicole Garcia:

I need to be the one that goes and steps on their door.

Nicole Garcia:

Knocks on their door, has a conversation with them to tell.

Nicole Garcia:

What I didn't do was leverage more help from people.

Nicole Garcia:

I'm proud in that.

Nicole Garcia:

I think I can do everything the best way, and that's just not accurate.

Nicole Garcia:

I can do things well, but I can't do everything.

Nicole Garcia:

And what I did is I put all of that onto Nicole.

Nicole Garcia:

And that made me lose my hair in chunks, you know?

Nicole Garcia:

Anyway, so yeah, I just, I put a lot of pressure on myself and like, by nature, that's just what I do is like, I always take on way more than I can

Nicole Garcia:

I feel like I'm very competent.

Nicole Garcia:

And so I hate in competency.

Nicole Garcia:

I hate that more than anything.

Nicole Garcia:

So I'm like, I would rather just be the one to do all of it.

Nicole Garcia:

Well, you know, all of it and not have to worry about people not coming through for me not having, you know, that's a big one.

Nicole Garcia:

Uh, not having people come through for me, it's huge because what it does is, I mean, it puts me in a vulnerable

Coach April Ballestero:

You were speaking to a multitude of audiences, so, and I a hundred percent understand and recognize

Coach April Ballestero:

And so I would be curious, two sides of that.

Coach April Ballestero:

The first one is you, you obviously learned that there was a value of delegating.

Coach April Ballestero:

There was a value of saying, how do I learn to trust people and how do I learn how to trust them?

Coach April Ballestero:

If I can't trust them?

Coach April Ballestero:

Or who do I trust when somebody does disappoint me?

Coach April Ballestero:

And how do I let that go?

Coach April Ballestero:

When that happens?

Nicole Garcia:

I get, so I take it so personally when people don't come, when people say one thing and don't come through for me, that's one

Nicole Garcia:

Thank you.

Nicole Garcia:

Um, but I think you have to give people a, try a chance.

Nicole Garcia:

And the further I got into it, I will say, you know, like I kinda lost my, um, my, I didn't lose the reason I'm more lost of like

Nicole Garcia:

I stopped.

Nicole Garcia:

And I started working in my own strength.

Nicole Garcia:

And after a year of that, like, I just got exhausted, but.

Nicole Garcia:

Um, but during the runoff portion, I was like, I can't do this.

Nicole Garcia:

So I need help.

Nicole Garcia:

So people, I had tons of people helping me and I'm just like, Oh, I don't know what to do with all these people.

Nicole Garcia:

And part of me started doing a lot of it on my own.

Nicole Garcia:

And then another part, um, you know, I saw that people did come through and I was pleasantly surprised when I gave them a chance.

Nicole Garcia:

Um, a lot of people didn't it, but a lot of people did.

Nicole Garcia:

So it's kinda like it's a risk.

Coach April Ballestero:

It's a huge risk and, to choose to go into office, is there a risk leader is a risk, so choose to step out

Coach April Ballestero:

Yeah.

Coach April Ballestero:

Pride is ridiculously easily attached because then you're like what does that mean?

Coach April Ballestero:

You know, if they don't, if they don't follow, they don't support me, whatever that may, you know, and

Coach April Ballestero:

And two, and here's what I'm curious about now, now that you have this reflection, now that you have this awareness and you're contemplating,

Coach April Ballestero:

Yeah.

Coach April Ballestero:

Yet you're contemplating if I was ever to do this again or anything that I'm going to take on next, how do I make sure that I overcome this pride?

Coach April Ballestero:

How do I make sure that I, you know, what tiny little piece of the elephant may I bite that I can keep myself grounded and allow myself to put some

Nicole Garcia:

I think yeah.

Nicole Garcia:

When, when I did that I, there are certain people that shined right now that I went through that really

Nicole Garcia:

Yes.

Nicole Garcia:

Yeah.

Nicole Garcia:

Like I'm going to see the positives in it, but right now it's just, it's very tough to, after working that hard.

Nicole Garcia:

Knowing that your opponent didn't work that hard.

Nicole Garcia:

But had a lot of money.

Nicole Garcia:

I mean, I was outspent by 30, uh, 30 times my budget.

Nicole Garcia:

I was outspent.

Nicole Garcia:

But I worked really hard.

Nicole Garcia:

So anyway what was I saying now?

Coach April Ballestero:

And, even that commentary, I just want to take a minute because there was something that you wanted to that.

Coach April Ballestero:

That's important for you that why you even stepped up to run for office and why you want to be cautious to not be

Coach April Ballestero:

And so the gift of people that did step into action, once you got to that space and you trust them and, if you were to contemplate

Coach April Ballestero:

How are you going to take on that little bite at a time?

Nicole Garcia:

Yeah.

Nicole Garcia:

Like pretty much the people shined, so I know who to, who I can trust and who I could trust and count on.

Nicole Garcia:

Right.

Nicole Garcia:

And, um, I could probably count them on maybe one or two hands.

Nicole Garcia:

Like that's how many people I can trust to actually do the work and help.

Nicole Garcia:

And that believes in, you know, follows through that's my big thing.

Nicole Garcia:

Um, anyway, that's I think a lot of it is being disciplined in my time, my reflection time and being in the word of God.

Nicole Garcia:

And he is my strength.

Nicole Garcia:

He is really the one that kind of implanted this desire to do something bigger than myself.

Nicole Garcia:

He implanted that in me.

Nicole Garcia:

So.

Nicole Garcia:

If I'm doing this all on my own strength, I am going to fail and my hair is going to fall out again.

Nicole Garcia:

I need to rely on the Lord.

Nicole Garcia:

He gives you supernatural strength.

Nicole Garcia:

And I will tell you, even though it was difficult, he gave me so many, both people that I can rely on.

Nicole Garcia:

I believe a hundred percent of those were from him.

Nicole Garcia:

He sent them, he knew when I needed him and I look back and I'm very, you know, with a heart of gratitude because I saw

Nicole Garcia:

And yeah, cause I kind of went charging into this whole running for office thinking I could do, you know, I had this

Nicole Garcia:

I did actually really well in the general election for being a nobody and nobody knowing me.

Nicole Garcia:

But, um, Okay,

Coach April Ballestero:

celebrate.

Coach April Ballestero:

And that what I'm hearing you say and correct me, if any of this is coming out in any way, you don't want it to come out.

Coach April Ballestero:

Okay.

Coach April Ballestero:

What I'm hearing you say is that you went into it with being in the mindset of being a David taking on a Jeremiah, which is a huge,

Nicole Garcia:

uh, um, Goliath.

Nicole Garcia:

Yes.

Nicole Garcia:

Right?

Nicole Garcia:

Goliath.

Coach April Ballestero:

Thank you.

Coach April Ballestero:

And after I wanted to move over to Nehemiah.

Coach April Ballestero:

That said the opportunity is to recognize that those 10 people have 10 people they trust.

Coach April Ballestero:

And those 10 people have 10 people they trust.

Coach April Ballestero:

That's good.

Coach April Ballestero:

They can start owning their territory, their armor, and their opportunity to bring down this wall.

Coach April Ballestero:

Yeah.

Coach April Ballestero:

You follow me?

Nicole Garcia:

Yeah.

Nicole Garcia:

And so it builds an army.

Nicole Garcia:

It builds an army.

Nicole Garcia:

Right.

Coach April Ballestero:

And if you, if you were to take this on again, or when you take this on again,

Nicole Garcia:

Oh gosh, I will, I will.

Nicole Garcia:

I just, I'm not excited about it right now

Coach April Ballestero:

when you're ready, your opportunity to see it as, as, as taking on finding your army and finding

Coach April Ballestero:

Because the world we're in today, we need armies.

Coach April Ballestero:

oh yeah, we need it for a multitude of opportunities and we only can operate in those armies with our pride overcame.

Nicole Garcia:

Yeah a lot of the pride thing I think about is I didn't want to ask people for money.

Nicole Garcia:

So I use a lot of my own money, a pride thing that I need to overcome next time is learning how to fundraise better.

Nicole Garcia:

When you're a politician, you have to get comfortable asking people for money, making those phone calls.

Nicole Garcia:

That's one thing.

Nicole Garcia:

You just have to overcome it.

Nicole Garcia:

I have an army that helps.

Nicole Garcia:

Yes, exactly, exactly.

Nicole Garcia:

But I mean, if I, but I'm the kind of person that if I'm going to ask somebody to do something, I'm going to be doing it a hundred percent.

Nicole Garcia:

I'm with you too.

Coach April Ballestero:

Nicole, you were a gift.

Coach April Ballestero:

And if anyone wanted to reach out to you to talk to you about an opportunity how would they best reach out to you and get connected

Nicole Garcia:

with you?

Nicole Garcia:

Yeah my personal, I shut down all my.

Nicole Garcia:

Political stuff.

Nicole Garcia:

I'm just taking a break from all social media for the most part.

Nicole Garcia:

But my email is nichole.garcia3@gmail.com.

Coach April Ballestero:

Perfect.

Coach April Ballestero:

And that's the best way to be able to connect with you, I'm

Nicole Garcia:

very responsive.

Nicole Garcia:

Yeah.

Coach April Ballestero:

Nicole, you are a gift it is obvious that you are on fire about.

Coach April Ballestero:

Making an impact in our community, making an impact in our government, making an impact in our kingdom.

Coach April Ballestero:

It creating the army that is going to step in and overcome the pride and determine who they're willing to serve.

Coach April Ballestero:

Right.

Nicole Garcia:

Corruption.

Nicole Garcia:

That's what I'm just knock that out.

Coach April Ballestero:

And there's an army needed, right?

Coach April Ballestero:

Thank you for taking the time and thank you for the opportunity as always audience.

Coach April Ballestero:

We are thankful you download our podcasts.

Coach April Ballestero:

You rate our podcast.

Coach April Ballestero:

We are purposely making sure we address every possible elephant as our guests are wise and desired to sit in the hot seat.

Coach April Ballestero:

Thank you for allowing us to put you in the hot seat.

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April Ballestero

Author, Facilitator, Founder, Consultant, Speaker, and Strategic Leadership Coach guiding light bulb moments. Thankful to be celebrating 10 years of guiding, coaching, and leading industry leaders such as attorneys, coaches, chiropractors, financial planners, the real estate industry, and many other sales and business professionals across the nation. The celebration goes on to include over 20 years of business, professional and personal development which I am so honored to share as a vessel to our clients, coaches, and community.
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Eric Ballestero has worked with Coach April Ballestero since before ONE LIGHT AHEAD®'s inception in 2011 while he was still in school and has continually brought new ideas and a lot of technical help to the team. He produced the first three seasons of Addressing the ELEPHANT in the Room® podcast in addition to being a continual partner of ONE LIGHT AHEAD®.